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I seek to become a human who can respond, rather than a human who reacts. I notice when I move our of reactivity, my experience of life feels better. I feel freer. It helps me to connect to calm when the inevitable storms of life arrive. 

I’m now in my 5th decade of life. I am a mother (sons aged 27, 18 and a daughter of 15), a partner, a sister, a daughter, a friend, a cat-adorer.  I have lived in Auckland’s west for 20 years and have developed a recent love of both hiking and mountain biking in the beautiful Waitakeres. 

I have studied in every decade of my life, and hold a BA, a Grad Dip in Psychosocial Studies, a BHSc (Hons, First Class) in Psychology, and a Postgraduate Diploma in counseling.

A great deal of my working life has been spent in social and business research, I have been a parent educator and coach and used to publish in parenting and health and wellness themed publications (read my articles here)

Therapy is another form of ‘research’, and goodTherapy really happens when your therapist is engaged in the conversation with you – finding out about YOUR experience, and where YOU want to go, offering information and resources.

I have spent three and a half years working as a counsellor in Adult Mental Health recovery, and have a depth and breadth of experience in having conversations about all manner of problems and difficulties that are troubling peoples lives. 

I have said to all three of my kids at times: "The best life skill you can develop is to tolerate difficulty". That may sound negative to some, but I have found (along with my clients) that increasing my/our capacity to meet the uncertainties of life and living really does place one in really good stead for being able to live a life of greater ease. And the greater our personal agility the more energy we can access to enjoy life.


Reactivity takes so much precious life energy - wouldn't you like to begin to respond to life instead?

I look forward to meeting you and speaking together


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