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How Does It Work? Bilateral Stimulation is where you engage in alternating left-to-right movements (like tapping, passing an object, or...

Most of us are familiar with the idea of an inner child ... a part of us that still carries hurts and unmet needs from long ago. A...

Taiwanese artist Tung Ming-Chin plays with themes of inner emotions and the subconscious mind through his masterful wood art projects...

Recently, as an experiment, I asked ChatGPT a question I often circle around in my own thinking and counselling work: "What are five...

Brain scans reveal something powerful: when we reframe our emotions—consciously shifting how we interpret a situation—we activate the...

The stuff below was not written by me, but I really appreciated it's wisdom! However, there are a couple of things I would like to add!...

All unhealthy relationship patterns & interactions are affected by difficulties in these two domains: 1 - Boundaries (too strong or too...

Ever been in an argument where you knew it wasn’t going anywhere good? Most fights don’t start as full-blown explosions. They build. ...

The idea of love languages has helped many couples identify the ways in which they prefer to give and receive love. By categorising these...

Met attachment needs provide the foundation for secure attachment in relationships. You can meet these needs not just by saying them...

Learning how to approach your partner when you feel hurt, and use it as an opportunity for relationship growth is a skill that can be...

I used to wonder why it seemed like my heart hardened with every year that passed? I was mindlessly becoming a thick fossil of judgments...

The "gold" of relationships appears within the realm of conflict: a constant movement between misattunement and repair. Some...

When you’re talking to your partner and your emotions start to escalate, one of the most important questions to ask yourself is “Which...

Hi There! Each month I send out a collection of stuff I think is either useful, interesting or funny (or all three - thats the sweet...

I posted something today on my GoodTherapy FB page that felt really important. So, here I am turning it into a blog post, because... well...

A wise man said something to me a month ago that really hit me in the mind and heart - in the way that really deep truths do. ...

“Assumptions are the termites of relationships” ~Henry Winkler Reactivity between my partner and I is "up". And yeah, I realise it's a...

I first heard this song when I was in my early 30's. The movie Magnolia remains one of my favourites. It struck a deep chord - both the...

Writing this in week 8 of Level 3 Lockdown in Auckland, NZ. It's been harder this time; I've been hearing that from my clients, my...